I'm reading The Blind Side and the kid says,
"People ask me if I ever reach the top will I forget
about them? So I ask people if I don’t reach the top will y’all forget about
me?"
Forget About It
I said something terrible the other day. We watched a video
and I laughed and told the class:
I don't remember that student's name. I don't remember that
student's name. Or that student's name. And it wasn't a lie. I couldn't think
of their names off the top of my head.
So here's how I sleep at night:
Let's just run the numbers. Two classes every semester,
that's 70 students. So every year that's 140 students. After five years, that's
700 students. Not to mention the four classes of sophomores, that's 120 every
year. After six years, that's 720 students. So that's over 1400 students in six
years.
I mean, my heart is big, but c'mon...
Plus I have to remember my wife's birthday, what grades my
kids are in, my social security number, my anniversary, my address, my phone
number, my top 5 favorite movies, my daughter's voice, to get milk, where I
parked the car, when I last mowed the lawn, when I last wore this shirt, when
the next new episode of New Girl is on, to take attendance, what my brother
Josh looked like when he smiled, that God loves me, where my keys are, to tell
my mom I love her, to call my dad on his birthday, my Skyward password,
plus a bunch of other stuff I can't remember.
So if I see you in a Walmart checkout line or in an old
video, please forgive me if I can't think of your name right away.
I promise, I haven't forgotten you.
Your name is just a leaf that hasn't dropped yet. So before
a big windstorm comes by, do something for me.
Remember when we made the dance video with Caden and Tara
and everyone? Forget about it.
Remember Tim's face when he was sitting back at my computer?
Forget about it.
Remember when Lexi came back? Remember when Lon got up and
read? Remember when Sarah and Addie's blogs made us jealous? Forget about it.
Remember how excited we all were on the first day? Forget
about it.
Remember how nostalgic we were at the end? Forget about it.
Remember how I struggled to get your attention because the
girls were just too excited about everything all the time? Forget about it.
Remember the day we tried to talk about Jonny, but nobody
knew what to say? Forget about it.
Remember how I made seating charts, but most of you sat
where you wanted anyway? Forget about it.
Remember how fast this year went? Remember Valentine's Day?
Remember jumping in the air on Indie Day? Remember the story about the wise man
and the bird and how everything was in your hands? Forget about it.
Remember this: doo, da, doo. da da da doo doo doo. #fancy
Remember trying to come up with a pen name? Remember
choosing a blog template? Remember when nobody knew who you were? Forget about
it.
Remember when I told you to fall in love? Forget about it.
Remember the story about the autistic son who typed the
words "I Am Real" ? Because I almost forgot about that.
Remember the paradoxes, the contradictions, the top 5s that
I missed, the pictures of journals I never showed you, remember the natives and
the tourists, the hearts you saw and the ones you didn't, remember what your
bones said, all the lines from all the songs, and every blog post you didn't
read.
I feel like the girl in The Book Thief walking through the crowd
of Jews whispering, "I won't forget you, I won't forget you."
But I'm sorry. Because I can't stop bombs from falling.
You remembered how to spell my name and that's enough for me.
ReplyDeleteI'm just really happy you name dropped me.
ReplyDelete"Your name is just a leaf that hasn't dropped yet." I absolutely adored this.
ReplyDeleteThis hardcore made me mad about not ever being in your class. Nostalgic about something I never even experienced. But I'm not mad about that
ReplyDeleteI've been reading kids' blogs this week and it's making me so nostalgic. I'm stuck between missing your class and hating the rest of high school. Stuck between struggling in high school and struggling in college and where the fuck do I fit in here? Half the people look at me funny if I swear. God. I guess this big long inconsequential comment was about trying so hard not to forget that I can't move forward. Stuck.
ReplyDeleteAnd this was genius. Loved the last line. The allusion to The Book Thief. Jonny. I remember being pissed because everyone cared after he was gone. And I wanted people to care about me, goddamnit. I remember being jealous and selfish. I think that's why I kept talking about rehab and shaving my head. Can't you see I'm not doing alright? Just talk to me outside of class. Talk to me.
Shit confessions. Emotions. Overrated.
I miss you.
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DeleteI had to write a ten page analysis of a book of my choice. So of course, I chose The Fault In Our Stars (cause I'm Hazel Grace biotches). So I spent a lot of time thinking about oblivion and how one day everything I've done won't matter and about the progression of being forgotten. Like, first my kids will (hopefully) remember my name once I die, and their kids will remember me as their grandmother, but most people start forgetting their great grandma's name, because like, I don't even know my great grandma's name. And then I'll just be a name some old lady comes across while indexing her family history.
ReplyDeleteSo at first when I read this I was like NO DON'T FORGET ME AND CADEN AND THE DANCING VIDEOS (legends) REMEMBER ME (because I walk around this huge campus and nobody knows my name or how bomb I am at lip synching Whitney Houston or that I can make their skin go cold with a pen and a napkin) I SWEAR I HAD FRIENDS IN HIGH SCHOOL I SAT BY THE KNIGHT.
And then I realized what you were trying to say. Cause to me this post meant to drop the pretenses, quit worrying about the things you didn't understand and remember the things you do - the things you felt and the things that matter to you because one day, when you die, when everything ends and your entire being is erased the only thing that will matter is what you want to matter. And if it matters to you then you win. Cause when you die, you don't' have to prove anything to anyone but yourself.
Fuhgettaboutit.
So I liked this post a whole lot.
idk
Hey you should post this whole rant on your blog.
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